Happy birthday to me..

Posted by Ahmed Mustafa , Saturday, May 15, 2010 4:51 AM

So i turned 27 and as always there were hundreds of midnight birthday calls, hundreds of celebretory text messages and ofcourse as always my facebook wall was flooded with happy birthdays and party all night type of messages...

Growing up can have a big impact on your life, some positive and some negative. Certain friends of mine see it as a confirmation of their manhood and thus by indulging in their own securities see another year of life as a go ahead to add yet another feather (sin) to their cap...meaning if they were on dope before with their birthday they would graduate to coke and pill popping.

I tend to do stuff differently. I like spending the day/week alone and taking stock of my life. I realized something this time around.

As we grow older, we tend to move farther away from our parents. I guess that is the way of the world. Thanks to the capitalist mindset that we live in and have been brought up on, the old eventually shrivel up and die, and somehow that is seen as a given in the human race as well.

Think about it. Who were the people who gave you your first birthday cake and invited all your friends to enjoy it with you? Who were the people who have been buying your presents all these years? Your parents. And as soon as you grow up, you start prefering your friends over them. When on the job in Islamabad, on the job, I made it a point to take my mom to plays and movies with me, just to show the world, i dint care if anyone judged me, i loved my mom. And it just hit me, I havent spent my birthday with my folks for the longest time.

I need to. You need to. We ALL need to. They made us what we are today, and they deserve this much and MUCH MUCH MORE

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11 Response to "Happy birthday to me.."

Aazar Ali Shad Says:

Very right Ahmad! Good lesson for me at least :D

May 17, 2010 at 5:42 AM
Kanwalful Says:

Oh comments are finally working! I like the new look btw. =)

May 17, 2010 at 5:43 AM
Asad Shaykh Says:

Agreed.

I have a slightly different take on this though. I think one actually gets closer to one's parents as youth gradually leaves us. I guess its because we slowly grow up to be (like) them which gives us an added undestanding of them as unique individuals; more than merely MUM & DAD.

You're still young. Enjoy. This happens on its on. Give it a few more years! :o)

May 17, 2010 at 6:13 AM
Anonymous Says:

Thats a great read Ahmed. You're probably right. As we grow older, we try being on our own, at times even forgetting we could hurt those who even at difficult times never even thought of leaving us. And we also forget that as we grow older, our parents need us even more...

A very happy Birthday to you! Stay blessed

May 17, 2010 at 6:55 AM
Dawn Says:

awwwwwww babboo!!! u read my mind =)
i couldnt agree with you more! No matter how hard we try we do end up taking our parents for granted! Although its not something we want to do but we are so busy complying with the stupid norms that its not very hard for us to drift away! I think we just need to put in an extra effort to show that we do acknowledge the sacrifices they have made for us and they mean ALOT to us! Trust me that way we would only earn more of their bleassings!
Good going mate! Thumps up!
hoping to read more from you!
All the best!

May 17, 2010 at 8:23 AM
A* Says:

Ideal son aren't you! except the not spending birthdays with family bit...that's pretty sad to read Ahmed...I always spend my birthdays in a way that dinner's always with family and lunch/evening plans with friends!
And as for the growing older bit, shouldn't you feel more closer to your family since you now begin to see everyone for who they are and realise that blood is definitely thicker than water? I mean you're growing intellectually on a constant basis (I hope=p) whereas physically your birthday is just once a year, therefore you should definitely be able to tell what's best for you by 27!!!
You have time to set things right, life's not thaat short =)
xoxo

May 17, 2010 at 8:46 AM
Anonymous Says:

I didn't know you had a blog Ahmed bhai! I'm following this!
Also, I feel glad to know there are some people out there who not only appreciate their parents, but are also not afraid of showing it. There's nothing I despise more than kids who cringe at the idea of spending time with their parents in public.

(This is subata btw.)

May 17, 2010 at 9:58 AM
Jazib-Nazar Says:

Rightly said, our capitalist mindset...

May 17, 2010 at 11:24 AM
Hashim Akbar Says:

i think its everyones different perspective... since the older i grow the more i tend to realise im gonna go back home to my parents because they need me when they're old... so im supposin this capitalist mindset changes from person to person...
though a part of this mindset is prevalent in each one of us!

May 17, 2010 at 2:26 PM
Nabeel Says:

this reminds me..'mother's day' just passed and apparently father's day is coming up soon too - crass commercialism,but it serves the purpose of making people explicitly tell their parents that they care - I may be wrong but the traditional Pakistani culture emphasizes a certain distance between elders and children,which is a pity...

May 17, 2010 at 9:11 PM
Bina Says:

i agree with you...most ppl do start putting friends first most of the time.not just bdays but even generally but then there are others who really do put their parents and family first..i believe it is more abt having a balance.smtimes u can put friends first but at other times esp bdays we must give prefernec to our parents over friends.beautiful piece btw..:)

June 2, 2010 at 11:30 AM

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